Everybody has a Place: Ayokunle Emoruwa

Often times we have to wait for people to leave us before we begin  to realize the role they play in our lives and how important they are to us but it does not have to be that way. We can begin to value people and see their place in our lives from the moment they enter our lives without waiting to lose them.Personally, from the first time I meet someone, I begin to ask them some questions-what they do, their hobbies and other things to help me know them better so I can begin to think of where they can come into my life. 

 

I have an aunt who was of so much help to me during my NYSC in Lagos because I am not based in Lagos, she helped me with almost everything, later I got my place and she gave me a mattress. When I was through with service I called to ask if I should bring the mattress, she said “no” she would come pick it since she is mobile, that was 2011. Then she called me last month to tell me she is not the owner of that mattress and the owner wants it back, I said it’s been long but i promised to call my neighbours, i did and they told me they could not find the mattress. My aunt was not happy with me; she said I should have found a way of getting it to her then. I was not happy with her too because I attempted to but she was the one who said I should not bother so I asked her to please allow me send the money so we could pay the owner of the mattress but she resisted. I kept telling myself and those around me that this woman has been of help to me and I would not want our relationship to end this way, though it was not my fault but I am ready to bear the blame because we have a place in each other’s life. I called her some days later and she said she has given the owner the money, I apologized again. 

About a week later, she and her husband called me, they needed help for their daughter’s admission and want me to help them make some enquiries. Few days later, they called me that their son has a skin irritation and asked for what to do. What if she had thrown me out of her life? We need wisdom because some people have things we do not like and they also have things we like, a times, we throw away the content and the container but it is not all the time that the content and the container are bad. 

 

'People should not break up from relationships and become enemies'.

 

About the author: Ayokunle Emoruwa is a dear friend and a neighbour for many years now. She is an author and an inspiring woman of God.She calls herself a Writer & Talker. You can follow her blog http://diarymi.blogspot.com/